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How To Support a Parent With a Special Needs Child

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It can be uncomfortable being around a friend/family member who has a child with special needs. Their special needs child may behave in a way that is odd to you and even scary.

It is a situation that is new to you that you may not know anything about.

You feel so bad for them but you have no idea of what to say or how to act. You wonder what you could possibly do to make this news…this burden…this heartache any easier?! There is a lot you can say and do that really will make this change in their life better.

It is so easy for them to isolate themselves, especially when they themselves are trying to adjust to this. What they need the most is your support. How to support a parent with a special needs child I will show you 10 tips to show love and support to this parents.

How To Support a Parent With a Special Needs Child - It can be uncomfortable being around a friend/family member who has a child with special needs. Sherry writes 10 tips on How To Support a Parent With a Special Needs Child to help you show love and support to these parents. #Autism10 Tips To Support a Parent With a Special Needs Child

Just be there.

Your friend or loved one has so much going on in their life and in their head. Throughout this journey they may feel alone, overwhelmed, withdrawn, and different. It is a lot for anyone to adjust to and to handle…they need you! Let them know you love them and are there to help them any way you can.

Be willing to learn.

Be willing to learn about their child's disorder in order to support them the best way you can. The more you educate yourself with why their child acts the way they do, how the disorder affects them, treatment options and what the parents are going through, the better you equip yourself at being the best support they need.

It will knock the fear of the unknown out of the equation and the unknown will become the norm. In return, the parents will feel less isolated and more willing to open up this world and let you in.

Reach out to them.

They may not be ready to reach out and ask for help so as their loved one reach out to them. Ask them if there is anything you can do to help. Call them just to say hi…keep the communication open.

They may feel like you don't want to be a part of their new world…after all, they didn't choose this so why would someone else choose to be a part of it. People tend to stay away from the new, the strange, the uncomfortable because they don't know how to respond to it.

Show them you are willing to adjust…to learn…to try right along with them. It will make all the difference in the world to them…just knowing they are not in this alone.

Offer to watch their other children.

Offer to watch or spend time with their other children. When you have a child with special needs, depending on what their disabilities and needs are, your world tends to revolve around them.

They get most of the attention, day to day is normally centered around how they are doing, appointments, therapy and behavioral issues. As a result, other children in the family learn that they have to adjust and be patient.

They may feel their needs aren't being met or that they are not as important as their special needs sibling.

Us parents worry about this!

We want them to learn to understand why it is this way…and in no way does it mean we love them less or they are less deserving.

To have a family member or friend that we can trust be willing to spend that time with them…away from their daily routines of not getting the attention they want and deserve would put some of those worries to rest.

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Help with housework and running errands.

Think about your day to day activities that we all do: Cleaning, doing the dishes, getting kids ready for school, getting ready for work, making dinner, doing laundry, running to the store, helping kids with homework, bath time, bedtime just to name some.

When you have a child with special needs, these simple tasks that become second nature to us is no longer simple. An example would be a quick run to the store becomes a planned out, time-consuming task that we then need to decide if what we are running out for is worth it.

By offering your help in any of these areas would be so appreciated by us parents.


Some parents depending on many aspects of their life: their child's specific disability/needs, married or single, support system, other children, not having a vehicle or sharing a vehicle, work or stay at home may impact how often they get out.

It can be such an ordeal to go out in which people that do not have a special needs child would not even think twice about.

This is another way these parents end up being isolated and feeling alone…they may not even realize it as it is happening. As their loved one, take the time to go visit them to help them stay and feel connected to the world they may feel no longer connected to.

Being the parent of a child with special needs is overwhelming at times. It is an emotional roller coaster that will change day to day and even moment to moment.

As much as us parents want to be perfect all the time it is impossible with all that is going on in our daily lives. We wear our capes as if we are superhuman and can handle it all… all the time. We are human…we forget that.

They need to take that cape off sometimes in order to take care of themselves…in return to take care of their children, partner, and family. You can be a big part of this by offering to watch their child…to give them that much-needed break to themselves so they can rejuvenate and come back anew.

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Offer an overnight stay.

This is a big one! In my own experience and meeting many parents and special needs children through the years, many of these children do not get on a daily routine of sleeping through the night. My daughter is 27 years old now…and she still does not sleep through the night.

It is absolutely exhausting!

When you first bring your newborn home from the hospital, you are prepared for the lack of sleep you are going to get. You know at some point within the next couple of years you will be able to get your child on a regular nightly routine and most nights they will stay asleep.

You are not prepared for it to last past the toddler years, into their teens and eventually into adulthood. Lack of sleep on a regular basis is no good to anyone! You can offer to stay the night and get up with their child so they can actually get a good 6-8 hours of sleep in a row or if they trust you and you feel comfortable you could have a sleepover at your place. Either way, this would be a huge one!

Invite them.

Their world is turned upside down and they will adjust to this life. Things will be different…they may not be as available as they use to be but don't take it as an insult.

Help them stay connected to the rest of the world by inviting them to church, birthday parties or other celebrations. Make sure they know their child is welcome and invited as well!

Try to put yourself in their shoes…if your child was not welcome would you feel welcome? Even if they decline the invitation…just the fact you didn't forget about them and continue to include them will send a positive message.

Help them celebrate.

There are so many things we celebrate in life. It brings people together. It helps us accomplish goals. To reward hard work. To feel loved. The accomplishments our children will make will seem so much less than your child's accomplishments but they will be just as big and important to us. Please help us celebrate and acknowledge the importance of our children's successes.

Your turn: How do you support parents with a special needs child?

Written by the late Sherry Roberts.

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