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3 Stay At Home Mom Bad Habits You Need to Quit Today

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Calling all stay at home moms! No all stay at home moms are equal, and that's OK! One thing we have in common is these 3 stay at home mom bad habits. via @mystayathome

Stay-at-home mom bad habits happens and if you don’t believe me read on friend!

Oh, I wanted to be a stay at home mom so bad that we made a big decision and decided to achieve my financial goal and after 15 years working retail I did it.

I love being a stay at home mom.

The dream of becoming a stay at home mom and raising my kids was finally happening.

I love that I was able to do what I had to do to become a stay at home mom. I am thankful that I can be home with my children when many others who want to be with their children can’t.

The truth is this.

Not every stay at home mom is the same.

Reality is not what we think our at home journey is going to be.

And that is OK!

Let’s be real here for a minute, can we?

Some moms just love being a stay at home mom. They enjoy it and find it to be their calling.

Being a mom is hard as it is and if you are not finding the joy you thought when you became a stay at home mom, that is normal.

Again, I go back to not everyone mom being the same.

The reason I tell you this is because I became a stay-at-home mom with a perception and the reality was completely different.

Since becoming a stay at home mom, I developed what I call stay-at-home mom bad habits.

I was a great stay at home mom, but I was missing something. I wasn’t fulfilled.

I felt terrible and guilty that I wasn’t happy or finding the joy I was going to find when I took on my stay at home adventures.

Before we continue, let me point out some facts for those ready to pass judgment.

  • This is not a stay at home mom working mom debate.
  • Many stay-at-home moms are not at home because they want to, but out of circumstances.
  • Just because it works out for you doesn’t mean it works out for the other moms.

When I first wrote this article, I was so afraid I was going to be judge, but the truth is that I wasn’t alone!

From what I’ve been hearing and reading many stay-at-home moms develop these bad habits as well.

The only way to get over these bad habits is to recognize them and do something about it.

There are 3 stay-at-home bad habits that I was guilty of, and many of you as well. As you read this, you will recognize them and know exactly what I am talking about.

Don’t be afraid of what these bad habits are; we are going to overcome them.

Even if you are a working mom, you are going to relate to these bad habits as well so don’t feel excluded. Guess these bad habits affect all moms alike.

Stay At Home Mom Bad Habits

Not doing anything for myself

Many moms fall into this because we are givers! This was happening for quite some time, and though I usually go out with my friends once a month, I didn’t do much for myself.

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When I go shopping, I shop for my family, not for me. When I go out with my friend, I think of the kids and what they are doing.

I really want a nice haircut and a pedicure, but I put it for later, and later never comes.

Since being a stay at home mom, I have focused all my attention on my family. When the rest of your family tells you to go do something fun for you and hands you a gift card to go spend it on you; you know there’s an issue!

As moms, we are programmed or made feel that we should put others needs first, and this is not true at all.

Remember ladies that a happy mami equals a happy family. Taking care of yourself and making your priority is nothing to feel bad about.

Calling all stay at home moms! No all stay at home moms are equal, and that's OK! But you know what these three stay at home mom bad habits seem to be and you need to stop them today. Learn how to get rid of these mom bad habits and joy your mommy adventure.

Not feeling like I contribute to the family

I have been stressing over this since I lost my job. I have been working at it, and it’s getting better, but I can see how many moms feel this way. Sometimes I sit here and wonder if I’m pulling my weight in this family.

Sad, but true.

I do think that way sometimes.

Then, I kick myself for feeling this way. I do contribute to our family. Not financially, but I do.

Just like my husband contributed to our family when I worked and he stayed home with the children.

I never once questioned that and was grateful that he was able to do this for our family. Without him, we will not be where we are now.

Not once did he ever mentioned anything about me not contributing at all. Guess number 1 bad habit comes from this.

Not everything is about money or about what role do I play in this family. The house is clean, the entire family is taken care of, and our finances are taken care of.

This is an important part of maintaining a well-balanced home.

In the future when I start feeling this way all I have to do is look at what we have accomplished and what we have since I became a stay at home mom.

Money or material things don’t defy me as a mom is how well we raise our children and that doesn’t cost a thing!

Being ashamed of my stay at home status

Whether you made the decision to stay at home because you wanted to be with your children or base on your finances, or for whatever the reason might be, Never, EVER, feel ashamed to say that you are a stay at home mom.

My first thought when I made the decision to become a stay at home mom was that people were going to judge. Yes, that people were going to say, “why did you leave your good paying job to stay at home?”

Leaving my job was a decision that our family made and one I posted about here. I have wanted to spend more time with my children and decided a few years back to start paying my debt and start saving to become a stay at home mom.

It was a goal we set out for ourselves and thanks to controlling our finances we were able to achieve.

I felt that stay at home moms are judged unfairly just like working moms are. But because I had a great paying job some people were not going to understand my decision.

I know that is no one’s business but our own, but let’s be honest those comments do sting a bit. Of course many only see what I’ve done now, not the hard work it took to get everything settled before I was able to quit my job.

I was surprised at how many family members and friends and neighbors praised the fact that I decided to leave my job to stay at home with our children.

I love how much love and support I get from my family and friends about this major decision. This helps me feel better and assures me every day that I made the right decision.

Have you been guilty of these stay at home mom bad habits? Tell us about it!

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  1. Karen Goodman says

    November 18, at 10:26 am

    Good for you for doing what is best for you and your family, even with the challenges. Never worry about people who will judge you…they aren’t worth your energy!

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    • Britnee says

      November 18, at 10:50 am

      Thank you Karen! Thank you for taking the time to commenting. 🙂

      Reply
  2. Emily // The Best of this Life says

    November 18, at 11:35 am

    I love staying at home with my kids! Sometimes I get that feeling too, but then I think – this time is so short, I want to savour each day with them 🙂

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    • Britnee says

      November 18, at 12:07 pm

      Is about family and what is right for you and your children. We get to spend precious time with them because they grow up so fast. Thank you for commenting.

      Reply
  3. Amanda {Planning It All} says

    December 3, at 2:57 pm

    Thanks for sharing! Don’t feel ashamed for staying at home – there are so many mothers who WISH they were in your shoes!

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    • [email protected] says

      December 3, at 7:25 pm

      Thank you Amanda! Thank you for your positive comment.

      Reply
  4. Aline Matiazzo says

    December 3, at 3:17 pm

    I am a work from home mom, and I can relate to some of the points, specially number one! ;p

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    • [email protected] says

      December 3, at 7:25 pm

      Yes!!! Number 1 for sure for me too! 😉 Thank you.

      Reply
  5. Tara Joy says

    December 3, at 4:17 pm

    I am with you on the, wanting to get a pedicure and hair cut but then totally forget it. Yeah I have a hard time making sure I take care of myself too! I feel like I don’t deserve it since I’m not making any money but that is definitely the wrong thinking!

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    • [email protected] says

      December 3, at 7:28 pm

      So understandable. But you are contributing so get your pretty on and do it with no shame. You deserve it.

      Reply
  6. Molly says

    December 3, at 4:50 pm

    It’s really important to make sure you take of yourself too!

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    • [email protected] says

      December 3, at 7:29 pm

      Exactly, Molly. You have to take care of yourself so you can help others.

      Reply
  7. A Book Long Enough . says

    December 3, at 6:55 pm

    I completely understand. I became a SAHM three years ago after working forever. I still feel like I have to prove I’ve been doing something worthwhile all day, but I’m getting better about that!

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    • [email protected] says

      December 3, at 7:30 pm

      Yes. That’s was tough for me. Like you is getting better. Thank you.

      Reply
  8. Jessica Rae says

    December 3, at 8:26 pm

    I’m not a full time stay at home mommy (I work about once or twice a week) but I totally can relate to not putting myself first! I always put my daughter before my needs and I would spend my last dollar on her. Great post! =)

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    • [email protected] says

      December 4, at 6:35 pm

      Jessica so understandable! Thank you!

      Reply
  9. Hello, Happy Place says

    December 3, at 8:39 pm

    I thought I would just be in the category of one of these- but I fall into all 3! Oh goodness, I love this reminder of how important we are

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    • [email protected] says

      December 4, at 6:36 pm

      Yes, Happy! We are important and don’t you forget. 🙂

      Reply
  10. Renee says

    December 11, at 10:02 am

    It’s hard even for working parents to put themselves first.

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    • [email protected] says

      December 14, at 10:34 am

      I agree Renee. I did the same thing when I worked too.

      Reply
  11. michelle myers says

    December 11, at 10:28 am

    Good tips! It’s definitely difficult for any mother to put herself first.

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    • [email protected] says

      December 14, at 10:36 am

      Absolutely Michelle. We are givers and forget that we have to take care of ourselves.

      Reply
  12. Lou says

    December 11, at 11:38 am

    So I’m not a SAHM right now, but I’m planning to quit my job in early 2015, which will rearrange the amount of care-taking vs. working that I’m doing. Honestly, it kind of blows my mind that being at home with kids is not considered work. It is work! It’s just not paid. I think this is one of those things that needs to be redefined, but usually people are too busy being involved in “mommy wars” to take a good hard look at this kind of stuff. Anyway, I’m going to stop ranting now. Great post!

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    • [email protected] says

      December 14, at 10:39 am

      Yes!! When I worked I paid others to take care of my children. Now I’m home doing it myself without getting paid. Getting them the best care from me. I dislike hearing that it must be nice to stay at home now like what I do counts as nothing. I so get you Lou.

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  13. Cayli Johnson says

    December 11, at 12:01 pm

    Being a stay at home mom was one of the toughest jobs I ever had

    Nightchayde

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    • [email protected] says

      December 14, at 10:41 am

      It’s hard work! Thank you for commenting Cayli.

      Reply
  14. Theresa Beauteeful Living says

    December 11, at 12:01 pm

    I think a lot of people can relate to this post (#1 is definitely a biggie). It’s wonderful to recognize these habits and know that what you’re feeling is very universal. Nice positive post!

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    • [email protected] says

      December 14, at 10:42 am

      Thank you Theresa.

      Reply
  15. Caroline Barnes says

    December 11, at 2:21 pm

    I totally admire stay at home moms. I love my kids more then anything but I also love to work. So I guess now that my kids are at school I feel less guilty about being a working mom.

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    • [email protected] says

      December 14, at 10:43 am

      I worked until 2 years ago and I think even when I worked I had many “bad habits” too. Don’t feel guilty ever. You are doing what you are doing to provide for your family. Sending you a big hug you way.

      Reply
  16. Kimberly Bolden says

    December 11, at 3:26 pm

    We all have opinions about what is best for others…Ignore them. You must do what is best for your family. I admire you for doing so. Do not let the misplaced feelings hold you prisoner and blind you to the treasure you have with your little ones.

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    • [email protected] says

      December 14, at 10:43 am

      Thank you Kimberly for such wonderful words.

      Reply
  17. Danielle Knapp says

    December 11, at 4:08 pm

    I’m definitely guilty of doing or feeling some of these things. Glad to know I’m not alone in these feelings.

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    • [email protected] says

      December 14, at 10:44 am

      You are never alone, Danielle.

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      • Nélie says

        February 23, at 12:45 am

        To come back on jobs market after kids no longer need your care, is what is hard for me now!

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  18. Glam Granola Geek says

    December 11, at 4:09 pm

    I am definitely guilty of number 3. I can remember at book club when everyone went around the circle to introduce themselves and said ‘what they do’ …around they went “designer”, “lawyer”, “yoga teacher” and me…….nothing!

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    • [email protected] says

      December 14, at 10:45 am

      Oh no! I understand but don’t feel that way. Don’t let anyone make you feel that way. Hugs!!!

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      • Glam Granola Geek says

        January 4, at 10:01 pm

        Thanks. I’m feeling a lot more confident since then, thank goodness! 🙂

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  19. Erin says

    December 11, at 5:03 pm

    I wish there wasn’t a negative stigma surrounding SAHMs. I can’t think of anything more difficult to do than raising a child.

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    • [email protected] says

      December 14, at 10:46 am

      Absolutely Erin. Thank you for the comment.

      Reply
  20. ClaireC. says

    December 12, at 8:36 am

    This is so true! It’s the hardest but most rewarding job in the world – and no one who hasn’t done it understands that!

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    • [email protected] says

      December 14, at 10:46 am

      So true Claire. Thank you!

      Reply
  21. [email protected] says

    December 12, at 9:08 am

    This article is right on! I have struggled with all three of your points. I’m amazed at how “easy” people think staying at home is!

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    • [email protected]enture says

      December 14, at 10:47 am

      You got that right Brandi! Thank you!

      Reply
  22. Alana S. says

    December 12, at 1:00 pm

    I suffer with #1. I am horrible about taking care of myself. You contribute so much more than you will ever know, the fruit of your sacrifice will hopefully be show when you have raised beautiful babies that are a joy to be around! 🙂

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    • [email protected] says

      December 14, at 10:49 am

      Absolutely Alana. Thank you for the kind words.

      Reply
  23. April says

    December 12, at 3:20 pm

    I’m so guilty of only shopping for the kids. I’ve been doing better lately but probably because they already have everything under the sun!

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    • [email protected] says

      December 14, at 10:50 am

      I understand completely. I was doing that or if I did wanted to get something that I needed I will buy the kids things too because I felt guilty that I was buying something for me.

      Reply
  24. Stacey Rodriguez says

    March 26, at 5:09 pm

    Love this! I left a well-paying job a few months ago and it is definitely an adjustment not contributing financially like before. But what we do is still important!

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    • MyStayAtHomeAdventure says

      March 26, at 5:43 pm

      Thanks Stacey! We sure do what we have to do!

      Reply
  25. Kori says

    April 30, at 12:48 pm

    We stay at home moms definitely need to do something for ourselves! And I’ve said to my s/o before, I don’t always feel like I’m contributing to the household.

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  26. Rosemarie Groner says

    May 7, at 12:35 pm

    I know exactly what you mean! I work at home and make more than I did at my old job, but I still feel weird explaining to people how I make a living. I think they assume any work you do at home isn’t legitimate.

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    • MyStayAtHomeAdventure says

      May 7, at 8:11 pm

      They probably say to you “It must be nice!” Not counting the hard work you put into your work.Hang in there you are making it work! Thank you @rosemariegroner:disqus

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  27. Jennifer Roberts says

    May 7, at 2:15 pm

    I often feel like I’m not contributing much, but if you add up what I save us on childcare and managing our finances I probably “earn” more than I did when I was working!

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    • MyStayAtHomeAdventure says

      May 7, at 8:38 pm

      @JAR36:disqus when I started this blog I added how much we saved from me simply staying home. My job was about 45 minutes one way each day! The gas alone was killing our budget. You are contributing, Jennifer! Hugs!

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  28. Jaime says

    May 7, at 7:59 pm

    It’s also hard for me to feel like I’m actually contributing. I have a toddler, nothing gets done! =) But my husband has told me before that he truly values me staying home with our daughter because he doesn’t have to worry about the household while he’s at work.

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    • MyStayAtHomeAdventure says

      May 16, at 6:43 pm

      It is so nice to have a supporting husband. My husband is amazing when it comes to letting me know how valuable I am. I so understand when it comes to nothing getting done. I think by the end of the day I am so ready for bed from chasing after mine.

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  29. Molly says

    May 16, at 6:36 pm

    I am not a mother yet but, I am a stay at home wife. I hear a lot of junk about how I am not contributing and all the same junk said. Sometimes it makes me want to cry when I hear anyone say it to me. My husband reminds me that I contribute, just differently. I manage the house business which is in his books the most important.

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    • MyStayAtHomeAdventure says

      May 16, at 6:46 pm

      People view contributing to a family with money. What you are doing Molly is contributing to your family, your husband. Even if you don’t have children, you are! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You are an amazing woman and your husband appreciates what you are doing.

      Reply
  30. Jeanine says

    June 25, at 8:12 pm

    #1 is me for sure. I never do anything for myself and if my husband begs me to I do, and feel guilty. It’s not fun.

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    • MyStayAtHomeAdventure says

      June 25, at 8:33 pm

      You should never feel guilty for wanting to do for yourself. Though it is hard why? Because we are moms. You work hard every day and you don’t have time off. So enjoy something you love. Start there. 😀

      Reply
  31. Alex B. says

    June 28, at 4:45 pm

    I can relate to #2. There’s this idea nowadays that someone who does basically ALL the work at home “isn’t working”. Actually it’s a neverending job without weekends off.

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    • MyStayAtHomeAdventure says

      June 28, at 6:15 pm

      I agree Alexa. I think people see “work” with money. When we are sick we don’t call off. We still have to take are of our family.

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  32. Shelby Martin says

    August 4, at 9:32 pm

    I definitely feel you on number 3. It is hard to get use to the idea that I don’t leave the house for work anymore. When I am at the store at 2 with the baby, I sometimes get embarrassed for no reason. #linkittomelinkparty

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    • MyStayAtHomeAdventure says

      August 5, at 4:02 pm

      Shelby, I struggled with that one as well, but don’t get embarrassed. You will surprised how many stay at home moms are out there. I know I was.

      Reply
  33. Kristy Boxberger says

    August 5, at 3:53 pm

    I work at home (15 hours a week, but as a lawyer, so serious work at high pay). My husband works outside the home.

    I still feel guilty, sometimes. I think it’s just the nature of being at home.

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    • MyStayAtHomeAdventure says

      August 5, at 3:58 pm

      I agree with you Kristy. I think it’s in our nature to feel this way. I just didn’t realize how bad it became with me when I left my full time job and thought the transition was going to be nothing.

      Reply
    • Joni S says

      September 14, at 4:09 pm

      What type of law do you practice? I’m also a licensed attorney, but stay home full time. Part time hours would be wonderful! Thanks!

      Reply
  34. Logan Cantrell says

    October 26, at 9:49 am

    I love this and thank you for the reminder that it IS enough. I struggle with whether I should be at work or not, but luckily I have started making money on my blog and that has helped a little. I agree with Kristy (below my comment) I think most people just struggle when they aren’t doing the “norm” that is going out to a job outside of the home.

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  35. Lisa @ The Drifting Desk says

    March 4, at 5:21 pm

    You’re honestly such an inspiration that you saved to consciously stay at home (regardless of what others think). Thanks for being transparent about how sometimes people view us for making that decision – but you obviously made the right choice and have a ton of followers who get it, and are inspired by that choice!

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  36. Jennifer Arthur Cirone says

    April 21, at 12:35 pm

    Thanks so much for sharing. I struggle with all of the above.

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    April 4, at 10:12 am

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    I was reading this article and I couldn’t finished it even in the Pinterest browser because after 10 seconds or so the ad redirects traffic Automatically from your site to their site, so you’re losing out on traffic. When my site has the issue I did some research and found it only happens with mobile viewers. I had to switch to my laptop to find it this article and leave this message.

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    • Joyce @ My Stay At Home Adventures says

      April 29, at 7:38 am

      Oh interesting. I will let our tech guy know about this. Thank you and sorry for the trouble you had.

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  38. Heidi says

    April 12, at 11:09 am

    Some of the greatest work you will ever do is in the home! Great reminders to put aside any “mom guilt”–what you are doing for your family and community is worth it! Taking a little time for yourself helps you to recharge and be the best mom you can be! Thanks Joyce!

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    • Joyce @ My Stay At Home Adventures says

      April 29, at 7:32 am

      You are welcome! 🙂

      Reply
  39. Katie Mullins says

    May 17, at 11:54 pm

    This is great! You are truly doing the greatest job in the world! I wish I was a stay at home mom so bad! I’m trying to make enough money on the side so I can maybe quit my job. I don’t want to give my husband a burden like that yet.

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  40. Femmefrugality says

    June 11, at 4:53 am

    You know I’m both! I think this work you do contributes a lot, and even if it didn’t is the work as a SAHM/WAHM does. I’m lucky that my husband is a SAHD, but also recognize that his contributions to the family are huge, both economically and emotionally for everyone involved.

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  41. Mrs.Deepali Sharma says

    July 14, at 3:56 am

    I appreciated your thoughts and yes it’s very great decision . I’m also stay at home Mom.actually I enjoyed everything about my family or my child. But it is also true women who stay at home, they never take care herself . Even they have lots of time for this but they always preference their family and friends.

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  42. Rebekah says

    August 12, at 1:57 pm

    This was such a good article. I disagree with the last comment ONLY with the part where you don’t feel like you contribute financially, you save SO much from not having to put your child(ren) in child care, literally so much. So you may not be physically bringing in money, but you are saving so much. One child could cost up to $400 a month and if you pay for a nanny that is even more! Good for you for being a stay at home! It’s such a rewarding job and also one of the hardest and so under appreciated!

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  43. Megan says

    April 18, at 8:05 pm

    To be honest I thought this was going to go a different way. I was waiting for “not cleaning your house” or “letting your children watch television when you should be teaching them 10 languages”. This is a great list and I think it’s definitely true for a lot of moms… they forget that their job is being with the babies! If they weren’t they’d be paying daycare costs, so moms shouldn’t feel like they aren’t contributing! Moms are badassea.

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    • Joyce @ My Stay At Home Adventures says

      April 18, at 8:51 pm

      “letting your children watch television when you should be teaching them 10 languages” This made me chuckle! Glad you like the post, Megan!

      Reply
  44. Sabra Casey says

    December 4, at 9:27 pm

    Such a great article, thank you for sharing! I feel every single one of these on a daily basis!

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  45. Linda mccann says

    February 3, at 2:33 pm

    I totally agree with all of this plus it also helps to have a partner who is understanding about these things too. ❤️

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  46. Becky says

    April 26, at 2:14 pm

    I have and continue to struggel with all three of these and then sometimes I wonder why i bothered to study and do all that hard work only to have a career for two years before we had kids. I dont think these issues will ever disappear for me but perhaps they will fade as time goes by.

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    • Joyce @ My Stay At Home Adventures says

      April 29, at 7:37 am

      Hi Becky! I just read this comment now, I did’t see it on my alerts. Right now what you are feeling is OK and normal! But let’s take a look at my life right now. I never thought in a million years I would be still be at home, with special needs kids (because after I written this post, my home adventure kept changing) and advocating for working families with special needs and making money online talking about something I’m passionate about. Take what you love and turn it into a passion and make money. You can feel discourage, but you will be fine. It will get better. Shoot me an email whenever you want to chat. Joyce

      Reply
  47. Noel Copealdn says

    April 29, at 3:45 am

    Hey there, I wanted to stop by and make a comment 🙂 You a really inspired me to post. from this comment on this blog,

    “I have been stressing over this since I lost my job. I have been working at it, and it’s getting better, but I can see how many moms feel this way. Sometimes I sit here and wonder if I’m pulling my weight in this family.”

    It really hit home and I want you to know I felt that way about the whole thing but could not copy more than half of it on here . LOL.

    I totally get this, and soo much more! Been a stay at home at mama on and off for 8 years. Work a year or so and then back home when needed. But it is super hard to sit there and think you are doing enough without being “shamed”. I am going to try and start my own mom blog and hope I reach more people as well.

    God Bless,

    Noel Copeland

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    • Joyce @ My Stay At Home Adventures says

      April 29, at 7:39 am

      Do it! Start a blog and be you. When I wrote this post, it sat unpublished because I didn’t I was so scared. Then I hit published and don’t regret it. I found my people!

      Reply
  48. Heather | Embracing Chaos with Love says

    February 27, at 11:22 pm

    Hi,
    Thank you for this. I really needed to hear it. As a stay at home mom I am guilty of all 3. When I first saw the title I thought it was going to be about not having a schedule or task list or something but this was so much better! I never do anything for myself or buy myself anything but I finally did something for me just the other day. I made an appt to get my hair done! It has been years! I am so excited and while my husband constantly tells me to do things like this for me I constantly but it on the back burner. I’ve even been second guessing it but after reading this post I know I need to do it. (Appt is tomorrow, lol). So thank you, loved this post!
    Heather

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